Opinions

When you're giving an opinion about something, observe whether it's uplifting your mood. Judgemental approach towards events, things and people rarely increase your spirit and the spirit of the people around you. People who embrace such approach tend to find themselves alone and lingering in the past.

How can we deal with our opinions? Our minds say "yes" or "no" automatically all the time. Have you noticed this? It's constant and we cannot escape it. It is built in us.

If we grab each and every "yes" and "no" our minds generate and say it aloud, it actually drains us out quickly and we become tired. They are like clouds, they come and go all the time. An event happens and then a sensation is given to you... and in the very next moment something else happens and another sensation is given to you. The cycle repeats and repeats, it is endless. So if we run after every opinion our minds trigger, we run out of breath soon.

But if they are like clouds, why not stop for awhile and just observe them as they pass by instead of chasing them all the time? We can never catch them, they're always faster than us anyway. Embracing observation of our emotions will take us away from the heat of the everyday situations, and through this our opinions will be set free of feverish quality whether they are positive or negative. Discriminating the world around us brings dissonance and exhaustion. Peace, happiness and the strength of mind comes from the world within us.

In reality, no event or experience can ever touch your deepest layers. You are the most beautiful thing that has ever been made. You are made of love. This is a force that will propel you through life and remain untouched by everything.

The flower

Every day new challanges arise. Sometimes they are given to us or we create them ourselves. We chase dreams, we reach goals, we beat deadlines. The tasks may be very small, such as doing home chores, or something big such as coordinating a team of people to work together in a project.

In the middle of all this we may lose our sight. A common mistake is to concentrate on the goal and forget what is around it. The thing we need to really concentrate on are the steps that lead us to our destination.

For example, imagine that you want a flower and you have a seed. What are your options? You cannot force the seed to become a flower. However, you can create the best possible situation for the seed. If you give it water, sun, time and proper nutritions, it may become a beautiful flower. When you shift your aim from the flower itself to its needs and to the enviroment, it broadens the perspective. More options become availabe and prioritizing becomes easier. The beauty and joy of the flower in bloom may be given to you but it becomes just a small part of the process. If it doesn't happen, it doesn't matter because you've given it your best and this in itself always more rewarding than any goal.

Forcing something only brings anxiety to everyone and even if the goal is reached by doing so, it will leave a bad taste in your mouth. It becomes a hollow accomplishment, a negative memory that will not be cherished but rather forgot by you and everyone around you.

We cannot just directly wish our dreams to become reality but we can affect our surroundings. We cannot create success but we can create the best possible situation for something like that to happen. Shift your aim from the goal to the things that make it possible. When you've created the best possible enviroment for something to happen, it allows you to relax, observe and enjoy the process.